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I know I've been sort of MIA (only sort of because I HAVE been replying to other peoples' posts and have done TQ LJ stuff), but I'm going to try to be better about posting here.

It's been almost two months since I've posted anything here, and I want to thank everyone who expressed their sympathies for my Dad's passing. It was appreciated more than you know, even though I've not replied to those comments. I couldn't for a long while, mostly because I hate crying and your comments and well-wishes made me tear up. Still do, when I read them.

For those of you who have wondered, I'm okay. Mum is a bit less okay because the defining aspect of her life for the last 4 years before Dad died was her committment to visiting with him every day, feeding him, trying to get responses that were more than 'yes' and 'no'.

And now, some advice.


If any of you have relatives who are elderly or even in less than good health, PLEASE consider finding out everything you can about them, if you don't already know. Their date of birth, mother's maiden name, place of birth... location of marriage licenses, where their parents died (for insurance purposes), terms of service and discharge papers if they were ever in the military.

Knowing those things would have saved me so much time and effort and phone calls. If you have the chance to find it out before you need to, then do it. Truly. And most cemetaries/graveyards/memorial gardens have booklets they'll give you (for free) with guidelines as to what you should know, even who (friends and such, as well as family) when the time comes.

Okay. Enough of that. Just saying. *quirky grin*

So, the update.


I did manage to turn in the MS for my Lime Green color box to TQ. On time, and everything. *hee*

Of couse, me being me, I asked for another color because... you guessed it. Sequel. Or Trilogy, I suppose.

The third and final Conventions book should be out in August. The sequel to 'Life or Something Scary Like That' (tentatively titled 'Life Changes Everything') should be out in November... and the Lime Green color box is scheduled for sometime in October.

The second 'Farmingdale Gentleman's Club' book, called 'A Game of Skills' (at the moment called that) will also be out in November.

I'm currently working on 'Mandarin Orange - Sweet and Sour' (this would be the color box that's the third in my 'Citrusy Fruit Basket' series... Lemon Yellow, Lime Green, and... yeah. Mandarin Orange. LOL).

I'm also working on the third FGC book for Total-E-Bound. I had started another as the third but I've decided that it would work best as the fourth book in that series, so I'll be writing the NEW third soon.

Aside from that, I don't have much of anything going on, so... that's it.

I'm okay and life could be worse. *grins*

I figure that's pretty much the best I can ask for.

Be good to each other, my sugar-coated marshy-chicks!

~Tis


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In all seriousness, that is a very good point. I am going to point it out to my mother (both parents still alive and good health) so they can put something together NOW, rather than when the emotional is crowding out everything else.

*hugs*

*hugs back*

It's a difficult conversation to even start, really, and can have a person feeling somewhat ghoulish, but it's definitely important. *nods*

Also, it's a really good idea to have your loved ones check any life insurance policies they might have to make sure that beneficiaries and such are up to date.

Case in point:

My Dad had life insurance through the Veteran's Administration that he got before he and Mum married. His mother was the beneficiary and when she passed away, he never updated the beneficiary information on the policy. So even though his mother would have been somewhere in the neighborhood of 120 years old, I had to chase around trying to get a certified copy of HER death certificate so my Mum could receive that payment. This was made difficult as nobdy knew when she'd died, or where, or her maiden name...

I know, I know. I'm kind of obsessed with this subject. It's not that I'm trying to be Miss Know-it-all, but more that I'm hoping people on my flist will benefit from the experiences I had when dealing with all of this. ANY death is traumatic, especially that of a parent. I'm hoping my experience will make things easier for everyone else, is all.

Thanks for replying. It makes me a little happier to know that I've perhaps managed to ease things, even a little, for the (hopefully distant) future.

~Tis

Welcome back!
*hugs*

I look forward to your new stories.

Thanks, hon'. *hugs back* Good to be all active and stuff again. :)

~Tis

That's some really good advice, even if it is a horribly difficult conversation.

Yay on the writing, and hugs on general principles.

It can definitely be a tough talk to start. *nods* Even so, if I'd had any clue about how much was involved, I would have gritted my teeth, accepted the fact that I would feel somewhat ghoulish, and opened the dialogue BEFORE my Dad was unable to answer. It would have saved an awful lot of time, effort and emotional breakdowns for both me and my Mum. *rueful grin*

Thanks for the GP hugs. *hee* And I'm very excited to be writing again without wondering whether I need to call social security again or the Vet's Admin or... well, a hundred and one other places. LOL

Thanks for the comment. I truly appreciate it!

~Tis

Hi! *waves* I had noticed you edging back into circulation. I'm glad you are feeling better. Other people being concerned bout me gets me every time so I do understand why you didn't reply to the sympathy comments. We don't need quite so much info over here in the UK, but it would have been nice if my parents had discussed anything about dying or funerals. I forced the conversation on my mother while she was still in hospital after my father's funeral (long story). At least I'll know that I am doing what she wanted when the time comes. My dad will just have to put up with my best guess for eternity.

Glad to see you've got plenty more stories in the pipeline for me!

*nods* Yeah, talking about one's own mortality seems to be something we all put off. Possibly because it's not anything we want to think about.

I'm sorry about your father, but you're right. At least you'll know you're doing the right thing, when the time comes. *hugs*

It's good to be back, even if I'm not quite up to my previous chatty self. I'm getting there, so that's a good thing. Sort of easing back into the current, as it were. *grins*

And yes. I don't know if it's some failing in me or just the way I'm wired, but expressions of sympathy and understanding make me both weepy and slightly uncomfortable, for some reason. It's not that I disdain the sympathy and good thoughts, it's something else, and I don't know how to explain it. *sighs*

Oh, yes. Loads of stories coming along (in various stages of completion). Pretty much everything already scheduled for this year is novel-length, too... with the possible exception of the Lime Green story. That one's sort of borderline, as it's right around 46K (pre-edits). LOL

Thanks for your comment, hon'. Very much appreciated! *hugs and stuff*

~Tis

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